Since you’re offering a little casual advice here, constable ... if you’re so inclined, after you’ve denied everything (as appropriate) and secured the services of a lawyer, etc,
Actually, I wasn’t suggesting denying anything; it sounded like she already had. I’m suggesting not talking about it, but explaining that in a way that distinguishes a refusal to discuss it from some sort of admission that any part of the accusations are true.
With the respect to the police, that’s simply, “I wont say anything without my lawyer present.” The cops won’t even call your lawyer because if he or she is not a total idiot, you won’t say anything.
With respect to friends/family, I was suggesting “It’s too painful,” but, “that sleazeball piece of shit nauseates me so much, I can’t even talk about him. If you want me to puke on your shoes, keep talking about him” would work just as well.
The thing is, a lot of really bullshit cases come out of these domestic disputes, everything from fake child molest accusations to gain an advantage in custody disputes to fake domestic violence to, I now see, horseshit theft charges.
Lawyers are paranoid by profession, so you can think I’m over-reacting, and just follow my advice to humor me.
Good luck and keep us posted.
When everything blows over, I’m sure we can collectively think of a way to thank him for being such a fuckwit.