Well, Elizabeth Edwards has gotten some spotlight lately as she came out of her million dollor home that her husband earned for her and sat before the cameras and enjoyed attention and sympathetic pats on the back . According to what I’ve read, she she is telling them, in so many words ,how disattached she is to a husband who can go to hell as far as she is concerned .
I have a feeling ( I wonder why ? ) that most people probably think Elizabeth Edwards is so abused and hurt and the blow delt to her was so overbaringly cruel and unfair that it would be almost inhumane to not fall all over her in her plight to “recover” from her husband’s “mean” disreguard for her fragile soul. And anyone who looks and listens to her objectively is an insensitive jerk .
It is so very obvious to me, I can’t understand why others don’t know what is really going on beneath her wound-licking and tearful act. You may sympathize with her, and I do too. But not because her husband was disloyal to her, but because she has cancer. Think about it : if she really loved him, why would she let a fleeting perfidious blunder by him dash a marriage of more than twenty years to abandon ? They went through heart-wrenching times together and nutured four children together , each of them having two adoring and devoted parents. It is not as if he said “Shut up and quit blaming me woman ! ” There have been sincere apologies , both private and publicly, from him .
Sure, she has suffered a certain amount of pain knowing her husband would stray while married to her, but I really believe her pain could not possibly be worse than his at this time. He was a famous and admired candidate for vice president and vice president too. He spent years and years of wearisome , strenuous, dedication to his work and cause , and was always the thoughtful ( almost obediant and deferant)and super respectful towards her.He was an absolutely doting father to his kids. He had unmatched tenacity to hang on and keep trying even though he was so often laughed at and ridiculed and snobbed . Even before the affair the media treated him like last month’s Christmas tree.
Years and years of hard work and dedication; years and years of loving dedication to his wife and family and HE’S a COMPLETE OUTCAST. An outcast in every way. I doubt he could even attend a party without being ignored or snubbed as if he were nothing but a cruel and worthles monster . It is patheticly ironic that he , who once had so many cheering supporters, and wonderful career life , would end up being treated like a hateful jerk who is rejected from society.
There is absolutely no doubt that he feels his wife’s pain and has given her full support and attention when she was discovered to have cancer. A man counldn’t be more considerate and respectful to his wife .And that is saying something when you consider how disrespectful and inconsiderate she always treated him . SHE DIDN’T ??? I won’t go into detail now, but I know that her attitude was criticizing and jealous of him . For most of thier married life she wouldn’t even take on his name. but wanted to use her maiden name instead.
He gave her everything- including a multi-million dollar home in the plush Chappel Hills and also at least two other homes. He gave her fame, fortune, sincere love, children in thier later midle aged life so he could compensate for the loss of a earlier child . Now she’s acting like he’s a lowly and delinquent non-person; and I wouldn’t doubt that she didn’t even sit down with him and discussed thier situation and how to handle the nosey reporters etc.
I know that , for some reason. John Edwards was a person who people just loved to hate . He’s a really handsome man.., but those good looks are also on the cute side, and maybe people just thought he HAD to be a conceited , vain ass; a big grin in an empty suit . Go ahead and be very negative about him- it seems to make for happiness being able to smirk at him. Admit it ! Sen. John Edwards could be everything nice, and you’d still snicker at him or be disgusted in him. But- HEY-I just had a good thought - NOW-since the “affair” you have a GOOD reason for sneering at him !! That settles it. Now you can justify your prejudiced attitude !! Good deal !
Think of it people : ” Scarlet Letters ” are not really a thing of the past . But they should be .